Limits and boundaries are basically the same thing. But I’d probably say that a boundary is something we set and a limit is something that’s set for us. I’m working to juggle and express what my limits are and what my boundaries are. What I cannot do verses what I will not do.
[Victor was so good at his first doctor appointment. And according to their scale this guy gained two ounces!]
Some men don’t want to be parents, some don’t make it a priority or see the value in taking an active role. Because of persisting negative ideas and stereotypes a lot of women have a hard time letting dads be dads. They’re afraid to trust what he brings to the parenting table. Adam is different than I am, he has different skills, talents, knowledge, and I appreciate it. So tonight, I want to appreciate men who want to be dads and are giving it their all. And kudos to all those ladies out there supporting their men being dads.
[My two dudes went on a mini adventure this evening! I wanted to go so badly, but Victor needs time with his daddy. So, while Adam took him around the block, I got some fresh evening air and waited on the front porch. Nights like this just make me overjoyed to be on a team with Adam.]
Please allow me to introduce our newest addition at Casa de Cook: Victor Elias Cook. Getting him into this world was a major victory for us, and we don’t ever want him to forget it. He’s our little champion already and we’re honored to be his parents.
[Labor and delivery was a very very very long and tiring adventure for me. Maybe I’ll share more about it someday, but honestly, this was a victory. Praise God!]
“When you’re going through hell, keep going.”
[Labor was tough, really really tough, but so worth every moment. I could not have done it with without God, my supportive and helpful spouse, and the amazing staff here at the hospital. Our little Cookie was born at 10:36am, 6 lbs. 10 oz., and 19 1/2 in. long. Still haven’t decided on a name, and we’ll let everyone know when we’re accepting visitors, but baby, mommy, and daddy are all doing great. Thank you all for your thoughts and prayers!]
Do tough stuff. Have a community that supports you. Be flexible. Cry if you need to. Learn to breath.
[Today has been a day of lessons. We’re here at the hospital awaiting the arrival of our prince. I’ll let y’all know about visiting and I’ll post when he gets here, but this has been one of the hardest days of my life, and it’s not even over yet! Thank you all for your prayers, they’ve made an impact.]
I look stuffed in my dress, but at almost 40 weeks, y’all can’t blame me! This is probably the most I smiled all day, cause this was a tough one. Was ten minutes late to my doctor appointment, they checked to see if labor was eminent [Thanks to no one for preparing me for just how uncomfortable/painful THAT was gonna be!], and then I laid in bed achy the rest of the day. Good news: this baby could be here in the next 24-48 hours, AND Adam bought me raspberries on his way home. There’s always something to smile about, just gotta look.
[Thanks for your continued love, support, and prayers. Adam and I will do what we can to keep everyone updated.]
I attempted to install the infant insert in our car seat. Adam is gonna check to make sure I did it correctly… Being a new parent is weird… The only other majorly productive thing I did was help give our cat a bath. Mr. Marbles earned lots of treats for being so good!
[Here’s the nursery half of our spare room! It’s all put together for now, but I know it’ll be changing once we get down our parenting rhythm. It’s far from being totally finished, but I love love love love love this space.]
[Think I was having some contractions today, nothing regular. But, I have an appointment tomorrow morning, so they’ll check me out and see if this baby is gonna show up soon.]
Y’all gotta quit worrying, as if I’m NOT gonna post something when I’ve had my baby! Please.(^^ This statement is meant mostly for my family and friends who are under the impression that if they haven’t spoken to me in a day or so, even if we hardly ever speak, that I MUST be in the hospital having this baby. Weirdos.)
Anyway, today’s DD is to listen to your body. Give it rest when it needs it. Make your body a priority. That’s probably one of the biggest lessons I’m going to take away from being pregnant. I had to learn to listen better to my body because it was very overtly affecting another person: my son. But, once he’s not living in the womb, I still need to remember that if I don’t care for my body I won’t be able to care for him. I want to be able to run after him, ride bikes… I want to participate in him growing up. But enough hormonal mom ramblings, just take some naps every now and again, Kay?
[Here is some proof that this dude is still chillin’ out, but has dropped. Also proof that I braved the cicadas and was in my backyard this evening.]
I’m posting early, but today is a special day. It’s my husband’s first Fathers Day. I know Cookie isn’t out of the womb yet, but this guy has already shown how committed he is to our little one’s health, safety, growth, and development. I’m so privileged to have you as the daddy to my children, Adam. You’re my King and today Cook Family 3.0 honors the great man you are. xoxox
[Special shoutout to my daddy out in Vegas, Charles, thanks for being a great example of what I should look for in an awesome partner. And another special shoutout to Bob for being an amazing Father-in-law to me! Y’all are great men!]
[Quick Cookie update: this kiddo has dropped! So maybe that West Virginia Statehood Birthday could be a reality! I’m feeling very tired and my back has been hurting something fierce today, but it’s for a good cause. We’ll keep everyone posted when there’s more to know.]
MMore rest, more laundry, more last minute friend hangs, and I even managed to bake some zucchini bread!
[Took this picture today, on my last day of being 38 weeks pregnant. I hadn’t been feeling Cookie’s movements much lately, but he’s been letting me know he’s still there today! Adam and I are hoping this guy comes to bless us this Monday so he can share a birthday with BEST VIRGINIA! Oh, and cause we really want to hold him. Also, I’m pretty much over this pregnancy thing.]